Pain and pleasure certainly goes along almost together. If not at the same time, their separation is only a hair- thread line. One cannot always experience the true pleasure of a certain thing in life unless he has gone through some kind of pain. This is true when it comes to relationship. The feeling of blissful pleasure every time you are with your beloved could mean the opposite of that when he hurts you or once you experience pain.

Just imagine the amount of pain that a loved one can cause to its beloved. Love can hit you as if there is rock being punch into your heart. Its true. As I reflect on it, its possible that this pain can only be caused by true love and only love alone. We cannot hurt the people whom we don't love or vice-versa because if you don't love someone, you don't care about him at all.

Once you love, you allow yourself to be vulnerable, powerless and hopeless for that matter. You bare everything because that is what love is all about. We tend to expect to be loved whole heartily by baring everything to our beloved- weakness, strength, issues, inadequacies. We expect to be understood and to be cared for and to be loved despite all. Every wrong move of the other person could mean a disaster from your point of view because you demanded a different idea for him to be. When he or she acted the wrong way or that person wasn't able to give what you asked him for, you hurt him or her by hurting yourself. You tried to seethe in the feelings for her so he or she would realized that she did something wrong.

After all, you will realized that every time you hurt yourself, you hurt him or her as well. That's the beauty of love and being in the relationship. Every time you hurt your partner, you hurt yourself as well. Every time you punish him or her, it is yourself that you punish. The more you cause him or her pain, the more she caused you pain because your hearts are connected with each other. Your hearts beats as if its only one.

Every pain that love caused only makes you realize even more that it is him that you love. Weird but true, the rest of the world doesn't really matter but only him because the moment you focus on what your heart's desire, it'll only lead you to him.

The pain gives us certainty that, that person is what our hearts beats upon. With this, we get no choice. We only have to accept it and grow into it. Find a way inside us to turn that pain into a higher form of understanding. Its what love is all about. We learn to forgive, to listen more, to understand deeper. And as we go along with it, we evolve, we transform into another being who now carries a higher form of understanding.

We now begin to understand ourselves in another perspective. We now begin to learn to control and use that love to make the relationship work. Its only true love that can transforms us. Only if we allow and trust it.

Many people as I see it, once they experience pain, they get angry and fight against. Without realizing that it is necessary to feel the pain because it is the only way to fully understand and appreciate the opposite of it. We all need to learn to embrace it and find a way through it because it is who we are and what we are here for, to experience the greatest gift that God has been given to us, and that is love. As we allow it to grow within ourselves, we begin to understand ourselves more, our destiny and our paths clearer. Its the reward that love brings to us.

When we experience pain, we must dig deeper into our soul and let it consume us. Instead of fighting against it, we must go along with it. Only then we realize that there is power inside all of us that can conquer that pain. Once we are touched by that power, we become one with in and it'll make us stronger as we welcome our new evolve selves.

When we allow ourselves to be not connected with that power is where the problem begins because we get depressed and angry towards ourselves. Instead of allowing that energy to flow freely, we surrender into a wrong kind of path where we seek happiness and fulfillment from the outside. We do not realized that by allowing that power to move freely within in and around us, it liberates us.

We miss the freedom that only love can give. Freedom that we all humans seek as we live our lives. Once we are able to realize what we have inside can give that freedom to us, we will never be lost again.

Trust the higher power no matter how senseless and illogical your situation is. Trust that beyond what you are going through is a greater plan that you are the main character into it. We all are loved even before we are born. We are all meant to be loved and to love after all. Always remember that every time we seek happiness, we don't have to look further or to do anything more. True happiness comes from deep inside us. No matter how we allow ourselves to forget it or fight it, it is there, just waiting to be touched and connected with.

I believe that if only we are all aware that happiness comes from inside us, and that we have the power inside ourselves to find that strength we need, I'm sure our world would be different today. People will understand themselves more and find their significance not from the outside rather on what is truly inside. If we only realize this we would not for one second waste our energies and strengths consuming earthly resources for us to be happy, instead we will all just be free and happy, being who we truly are. It is what contentment truly means, and that the so called pain we used to know or dreadful just to think about, shall no longer exist.